Seppuku

Before Sinful asks NO ******* PICS, now that thats out of the way. Im in the most messed up "relationship" ever. We're not going out right now shes afraid, Im not sure why but she has nothing to worry about and i dont know how to explain this to her and make this right for her. The other night she told me she loved me and wanted to be with me and was certain she would end up marrying me. Issue is, she has a bf right now and he's an ***. Hes never there for her and doesnt try to be, Im the one who is. She realizes this but is still too afraid to do anything for some reason. She told me once shes afraid to lose me and that she doesnt want to wait to long and ill be gone. I have no clue what to do about this I love her more than anything else and would do anything for her but she has security with him and uncertanty with me right now. Any women on here want to tell me what I can say to help her through this? I know this post probably doesnt make much sense but my heads so fucked up with this right now i cant think straight.



EDIT: problem is last night she decided to tell me shes going to stay with him, and im not sure why.

Shane.Trammell

hmm sex must be better over there. if shes being like that you dont need her.

Dramon_Killer

yeah mang, seriously. this is just like a guy going out with two girls at once and dating one but telling the other one he needs her too.



Except you're kinda getting screwed as the backup here. I dunno mang.

Seppuku

there is no sex shes a virgin.

Seppuku

Yeah i realize im getting fucked here all the problems with no good, she says she doesnt want to hurt me, and she doesnt think that shes not good enough for me. Theres lots of little things i guess.

red_blast

Tell her to leave the ******* guy she is with now or you're not going to wait. Give her an ultimatum. I don't understand girls like that. Why would you stay with a jerk when you could have someone who really cares about you. What is she afraid of? Its not fair for you to stand on the side line and wait for her to make up her mind. If she is never pushed to make up her mind then she won't. Even though you may care about her a lot, you have to take care of yourself too. You have to do what's best for you. I don't know if that helped, but that's what I think.



--Lauren

Seppuku

Shes afraid of her father i think, hes not happy with us being together. I've been her brothers friend for 6 years now and theres a couple years age difference between me and her. Shes afraid of what her father will do when we start going out and I've talked to her mom (shes on my side) and she tells me hes just worried that were going to be having sex and everything which is understandable i guess, but i wont.

Dramon_Killer

quit making excuses for her. sometimes you have to be selfish.

red_blast

Its called trust. They have to believe that they raised her right and that she will make wise decisions. If they respect you as a person then they should trust you. And you are adults, are you not? You can make your own decisions, good or bad.



--Lauren

Seppuku

Her parents have no trust as they ruined there own lifes that way. Theyre always fighting becuase they stuck together becuase they had a kid. Her dad is an ******* too and this whole thing is starting to **** me off.