Baldy

take her out on a "special" date. The kind you do when you first meet, and really want to impress her. Set up a romantic evening, with candles and intimate moments, talk to each other a lot, walk around holding hands. Beforehand, get flowers delivered at work or whatever, leave a card where she'll see it. Snuggle under the stars or in front of a fire, whatever your style (as a couple) is. Kiss in public, and act like highshoolers discovering each other. This seems to bring the feelings back of when the relationship started (does for me and my wife, anyway). Make sex part of something larger and more intimate, and it won't be so physical, and there won't be those other reasons (ie I'm tired, I'm sleepy, I'm not feeling attracted to you at the moment but won't tell you, I don't feel pretty...). I've found it's harder when it's like "ok, honey, nows the time. Let's get it on!" Be romantic, but not unnaturally, and if that doesn't work (in addition to discussing the problem), try counseling. I ramble, but hopefully it helps someone.

ChainSawOnSteroids

@baldy um...your a freak!!! j/p

but i somewhat agree with you, make her feel good, and she will make you feel good, but if you try really hard, and get the cold shoulder, then my fellow rotorhead, you have issues in your personal life, wich need attending too.

(counceling if you want to stay together)

oh, and you might wanna look into the fact that, 99% of the time when people dont get sex in a relationship they usually get it elsewhere(dont wanna sond bad) this is something that a person who means a lot to me said once

so yea, do some search and destroy, then come to conclusions

oh and everyone can call me Leo, not chainsaw (just my preference)

Baldy

leo

hey, she married me, didn't she? :bigok:

SpecialT

You're cool.

I'm impressed you put so much effort into your relationship.

Your wife must be a happy woman!

It's just if he has to go to "Extremes" all the time. . .

seems a little forced? I don't know?

Maybe I'm wrong. . . But I don't think it's supposed to be that hard?

Once and a while sure. . . but not even married yet?

ChainSawOnSteroids

oh, lol i wasnt directing at you, but hey, i agree if it works, than by god, use it (hehe) ,

"If it (by no means trying to sound like an *******) makes you happy, well then return the ******* favor!"

christi

I didn't mean to say that sex was not important in a relationship , but I hate it when some people think that sex has to keep a relationship together..... What sinful's finacee(sp) is doing to him is wrong, but.. I dunno.



Ignore me. I have lost my touch.

Sinful7

hehe, thanks for the help, Christi!