Girl Situations
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I don't think we're really all that far apart. And I agree totally on the "live and let live" thing.
I don't think guys should see how many one-night stands they can ring up, but I do think that a good bit of relationship experience is a very important part of personal growth. And for me, and I suspect for a lot of other guys, an integral part of a relationship with a woman is SEX!
I don't think guys should see how many one-night stands they can ring up, but I do think that a good bit of relationship experience is a very important part of personal growth. And for me, and I suspect for a lot of other guys, an integral part of a relationship with a woman is SEX!
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From: Portland, OR
[quote name='PhoenixDownVII' date='Mar 24 2005, 01:55 PM']Did you happen to see what I said about how it affects your emotions and the way you feel about someone?
I, matter-of-factly, put sex on a higher "Petastol" than he does in that it's not something "experimentative" to "figure out" if I am compatable with marrying someone for a lifetime. That's it.
I think it's sacred and should be saved for your soul mate.
Let's not get off-point here, I am simply saying I don't need to have sex with the 10 girls I know to figure out if I could withstand spending a lifetime with them.
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Let me put this another way, with some background information I know that you have a perfectionist attitude, granted you don't have sex with an automobile per say, but how many cars did you say you have gone through to find one that meets your standards? And you have said you are still looking for something more?
Clearly you put a car through the paces to find if it's exactly what you're looking for, yet you refuse to apply the same formula in a relationship? I don't feel that sex is the most important area in a relationship, or the reason for a relationship, but it is clearly an important part and furthers the emotional bonding process, along with satisfying carnal desires. While retaining your virgin status is admirable, I think you are setting yourself up for dissapointment to some degree down the road.
I, matter-of-factly, put sex on a higher "Petastol" than he does in that it's not something "experimentative" to "figure out" if I am compatable with marrying someone for a lifetime. That's it.
I think it's sacred and should be saved for your soul mate.
Let's not get off-point here, I am simply saying I don't need to have sex with the 10 girls I know to figure out if I could withstand spending a lifetime with them.
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Let me put this another way, with some background information I know that you have a perfectionist attitude, granted you don't have sex with an automobile per say, but how many cars did you say you have gone through to find one that meets your standards? And you have said you are still looking for something more?
Clearly you put a car through the paces to find if it's exactly what you're looking for, yet you refuse to apply the same formula in a relationship? I don't feel that sex is the most important area in a relationship, or the reason for a relationship, but it is clearly an important part and furthers the emotional bonding process, along with satisfying carnal desires. While retaining your virgin status is admirable, I think you are setting yourself up for dissapointment to some degree down the road.
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Let me clarify something for the "youngsters" here. Its not about how many girls you stick your dick in. Its about learning from experiences with girls. Say what you want, but sex is a MAJOR part of any serious relationship. The only people who will argue that are idealistic virgins and preachers.
Who would want their parents to pick out their wife, like it was in the distant past? Wouldnt you want to be free to make your own choice about who you want to spend the rest of your life with? Now why shouldnt that carry over to sex as well? Its just as big of a part as anything else. Religion has made sex before marriage so taboo, and all for what? How many marriages have failed, how many miserable couples have resulted thanks to that one religious ideal?
Who would want their parents to pick out their wife, like it was in the distant past? Wouldnt you want to be free to make your own choice about who you want to spend the rest of your life with? Now why shouldnt that carry over to sex as well? Its just as big of a part as anything else. Religion has made sex before marriage so taboo, and all for what? How many marriages have failed, how many miserable couples have resulted thanks to that one religious ideal?
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From: Tulsa, OK
[quote name='Rx7Widow' date='Mar 24 2005, 03:20 PM']Never been with a girl, I find them too needy. I've been through many MANY failed relationships, and now that I've finally found a guy who is more impressed with me than with my *****, I'm gonna keep him.
Oh, and you're all invited to the wedding, tentative date 10-21-2006.
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But they are great.
Oh, and you're all invited to the wedding, tentative date 10-21-2006.
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But they are great.
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[quote name='PhoenixDownVII' date='Mar 24 2005, 01:55 PM']I, matter-of-factly, put sex on a higher "Petastol" than he does in that it's not something "experimentative" to "figure out" if I am compatable with marrying someone for a lifetime. That's it.
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thats right.
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The argument is based around what venom put forth, that he is sleeping with many women, none of which he has a relationship with, they are all strictly for sex. If it was about being in a serious relationship and having sex, it would be different. But it is about having sex with as many women as possible with no desire for a relationship.
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