Where's My Gun???
12-02-2002, 10:21 PM
#41
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I wouldn't know. I'd tell her what's up. I'd say if she gets an attitude about it.. well I dunno. Sex isn't really important in a relationship, but I do agree with some amusement, so you aren't bored off your asses all the time.
My best friend was/still is married almost a year , Over this year's thanksgiving holidays... her husband and her finally had sex.... after a year of not having anything - everyday last week.
She told me that, one reason she thinks they haven't done much is because she feels she lost her sex drive after she had her daughter, bethany.
Anyway, moral/point/whatever to this story:
If she's so protective of you using something to get you off because you're horny, then... i'd say talk to her. You don't need the frustration, because she's being so stubborn.
This is my $.02.
Baah, I don't know.
My best friend was/still is married almost a year , Over this year's thanksgiving holidays... her husband and her finally had sex.... after a year of not having anything - everyday last week.
She told me that, one reason she thinks they haven't done much is because she feels she lost her sex drive after she had her daughter, bethany.
Anyway, moral/point/whatever to this story:
If she's so protective of you using something to get you off because you're horny, then... i'd say talk to her. You don't need the frustration, because she's being so stubborn.
This is my $.02.
Baah, I don't know.
12-03-2002, 09:52 AM
#43
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I guess it really depends on the couple, but I don't think it's truly accurate to say that "Sex isn't really important in a relationship...". We are sexual creatures and just like every other creature out there, one of our reasons for living is to propagate our species. Humans have transcended that instinct and also use sex as a form of pleasure or entertainment.
I guess I'm lucky that my new wife (married Oct 25) and I enjoy a sex-life with a high frequency of events (we get it on a lot). Sex (or,euphamistically, making love) IS important to a fulfilling relationship because it brings the element of intimacy. Without it, you're just a couple sharing the bills and living space. Ho Hum...
Communication is THE best way to resolve matters like this. Make her participate in a frank, honest discussion about it. If you both understand each others needs or wants, maybe it'll eliminate your desire to hide somewhere and secretly wack-off, hoping she won't hear and get mad. What kind of marriage would that be?
There, see how easy? I'm a Graphic Designer, but I could be a counseler, huh?
I guess I'm lucky that my new wife (married Oct 25) and I enjoy a sex-life with a high frequency of events (we get it on a lot). Sex (or,euphamistically, making love) IS important to a fulfilling relationship because it brings the element of intimacy. Without it, you're just a couple sharing the bills and living space. Ho Hum...
Communication is THE best way to resolve matters like this. Make her participate in a frank, honest discussion about it. If you both understand each others needs or wants, maybe it'll eliminate your desire to hide somewhere and secretly wack-off, hoping she won't hear and get mad. What kind of marriage would that be?
There, see how easy? I'm a Graphic Designer, but I could be a counseler, huh?
12-03-2002, 10:59 AM
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The same thing happened in my last relationship.
She lost interest in sex.
Not with just me... With SEX in general. She didn't ********** anymore...anything...WOULDN'T EVEN LET ME GO DOWN ON HER... And I'm the **** at that..
We had an AWESOME sexual relationship in the beginning...Videos, you name it.. And it just went away. I posed the questions. Asked if it was me... blah, blah, blah... She just didn't get horny anymore. She said that every relationship she had ever been in ended that way.
Well, I have never been in love like that before. And to this day I can't believe I said goodbye.
Sorry. I need to be needed. I need a sexual relationship. I was built like that. It's been over for a year and 3 months. Still ******* haunts me.
She lost interest in sex.
Not with just me... With SEX in general. She didn't ********** anymore...anything...WOULDN'T EVEN LET ME GO DOWN ON HER... And I'm the **** at that..
We had an AWESOME sexual relationship in the beginning...Videos, you name it.. And it just went away. I posed the questions. Asked if it was me... blah, blah, blah... She just didn't get horny anymore. She said that every relationship she had ever been in ended that way.
Well, I have never been in love like that before. And to this day I can't believe I said goodbye.
Sorry. I need to be needed. I need a sexual relationship. I was built like that. It's been over for a year and 3 months. Still ******* haunts me.
12-03-2002, 11:24 AM
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Yes, I've got to agree.
Sex is a very important part of a relationship! Not the end all and be all. But important just the same.
You have to know someone wants you, wants to be intimate with you.
Without it you feel something is missing.
To me it is just like talking, if you loose that aspect of communication . . all else will eventually fail.
Sex is communication, but on a different level.
It's not like you have set a limit or expectation on how often it happens, or how long it should last.
It's the base feeling of knowing someone wants to share themsleves with you.
Wants to experience personal pleasure with you.
I'm trying to be a wet blanket here, but if it's important to you. . .
You need to communicate that to her, find out why she doesn't feel the same.
Sexual desire isn't a switch, you can't just turn it on or off.
There must be a short in the wiring for it just to fail.
Good luck! I hope it works out!
Sex is a very important part of a relationship! Not the end all and be all. But important just the same.
You have to know someone wants you, wants to be intimate with you.
Without it you feel something is missing.
To me it is just like talking, if you loose that aspect of communication . . all else will eventually fail.
Sex is communication, but on a different level.
It's not like you have set a limit or expectation on how often it happens, or how long it should last.
It's the base feeling of knowing someone wants to share themsleves with you.
Wants to experience personal pleasure with you.
I'm trying to be a wet blanket here, but if it's important to you. . .
You need to communicate that to her, find out why she doesn't feel the same.
Sexual desire isn't a switch, you can't just turn it on or off.
There must be a short in the wiring for it just to fail.
Good luck! I hope it works out!
12-03-2002, 12:47 PM
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Sinful, dude, I swear the funniest **** happens to you. First I read the post about you taking a day off to fix your truck, and then a few hours later I read this? I'm laughin my *** off. I'd give you some advice, but like ChainSaw, I can't add anything that hasn't already been said. Tricia and Christi need to spread this mindset to women all over the world. It'd make Earth a better place for everybody. :bigok:
12-03-2002, 01:24 PM
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Originally Posted by TKO' date='Dec 3 2002, 10:54 AM
Ah no, not truck, jus remembered it was an Olds.
Ahhh... the good ol' Bravada.