One Of My Best Friends Died Today..
01-06-2004, 06:27 PM
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One of my best friends died today, she was 7 months pregnant, she had the baby stillborn and went into cardiac arrest and died shortly thereafter, I REALLY cannot believe that if there was a god that he'd let a baby die, let alone it's mother...She never got to see my son, We hadn't talked in awhile, and I feel so lost right now, I can't/won'
t do anything stupid, cuz i have my son and fiancee to live for, but when life keeps trying to kill you, how do you bounce back? I've been to 5 funerals in the last 3 years and I can't help but think that what if the next one's my son? or me?........THis is prolly the last place i should look for anwers (the internet), but all of you are real ppl, so maybe someone can help, I know some of you have been thru rough times, any advice has to help, I've been low before, but i've NEVER felt so damn lost and hopeless, everything is frozen so i went out and beat the **** out of my truck, probably will need a new clutch soon, but i felt a little better, my g-friend can't quit crying, and i feel even too bad to do that, anyways, I'm done. It's out, that's the most important thing, i feel a little better, now i have to make some calls and find out when the funeral is.
Sean
t do anything stupid, cuz i have my son and fiancee to live for, but when life keeps trying to kill you, how do you bounce back? I've been to 5 funerals in the last 3 years and I can't help but think that what if the next one's my son? or me?........THis is prolly the last place i should look for anwers (the internet), but all of you are real ppl, so maybe someone can help, I know some of you have been thru rough times, any advice has to help, I've been low before, but i've NEVER felt so damn lost and hopeless, everything is frozen so i went out and beat the **** out of my truck, probably will need a new clutch soon, but i felt a little better, my g-friend can't quit crying, and i feel even too bad to do that, anyways, I'm done. It's out, that's the most important thing, i feel a little better, now i have to make some calls and find out when the funeral is.
Sean
01-06-2004, 06:31 PM
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My condolences bro.
Life isn't always fair, situations like these just require more time with loved ones and Time to heal.
Conversely, I've come to know situations like these are quite outside of God's hands. Think of it, since the fall of man, sin has existed. Since then a LOT of things are "allowed" by God, and in that...unfair things happen...cancer kills...innocent die...the best thing to do is to find faith/hope and confide in each other and God. Perhaps, sometimes He go's out of His way to prevent some unfair occurances, but he surely didn't craft 9/11 or this...he simply lets us make our mistakes/corrections.
So on that note, you're all in my prayers. Take care...(AIM me: TigerDBR if you want...)
Life isn't always fair, situations like these just require more time with loved ones and Time to heal.
Conversely, I've come to know situations like these are quite outside of God's hands. Think of it, since the fall of man, sin has existed. Since then a LOT of things are "allowed" by God, and in that...unfair things happen...cancer kills...innocent die...the best thing to do is to find faith/hope and confide in each other and God. Perhaps, sometimes He go's out of His way to prevent some unfair occurances, but he surely didn't craft 9/11 or this...he simply lets us make our mistakes/corrections.
So on that note, you're all in my prayers. Take care...(AIM me: TigerDBR if you want...)
01-06-2004, 06:40 PM
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You are in my prayers. I cannot imagine the pain that you are going through. Life isn't fair, and I often question God as to why things happen. Don't give up hope though man. This is truly horrible what has happened to you, but know that you have people here who care for you.
01-06-2004, 06:42 PM
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That's horrible. I can't imagine how that feels, to have so many friends die. I've lost people who were special and important before, but not so many at one time.
There is one good thing that can come from this, however. You can realize that there is no God, and realize that life is terminal in nature; everything alive must suffer at one point or another, and everything good comes to an end. So how is that a good thing, you ask? It will open your eyes to the weakening nature of attachments, and you will be stronger when you recover from the depression that will set in. You will be more at peace with yourself when you realize this.
There is one good thing that can come from this, however. You can realize that there is no God, and realize that life is terminal in nature; everything alive must suffer at one point or another, and everything good comes to an end. So how is that a good thing, you ask? It will open your eyes to the weakening nature of attachments, and you will be stronger when you recover from the depression that will set in. You will be more at peace with yourself when you realize this.
01-06-2004, 06:42 PM
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sorry to hear about your friend. but it is no reason at all to be upset about. things happen for a reason, we may not like it but it happens. i had my father taken away from me at the age 11, i barely knew the man. did she have any health problems of some sort. my prayers go out to her family
01-06-2004, 06:47 PM
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Your family along with hers will be in my prayers...God gave us one the greatest gifts he could...free will. He does not control every thing that happens on this planet (unfortantley). But dont let things like this break your faith. We are simple creatures and can not see the whole big picture. They are I asure you in a better place now free of suffering...take comfort in that and pray...