My Wife Or My Car?
03-17-2003, 12:58 AM
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Well I'm down to having to choose between having a good marriage or owning a powerful RX7. Over the past year of owning my car it has had many problems. All the problems were little, but they added up to a pretty expensive bill. Between the cost of the car and the cost of fixing/upgrading it I estimate that I've spent close to 10k. As you can imagine this has caused many problems between the wife and I. Everytime something comes up she has a fit because it cuts into money and time that we had set aside for other things. The latest and greatest thing that I've had to buy was a Haltech so that I could replace sensors that were going bad(didn't want to go back to stock crappy ones). She is not very pleased that this is costing close to 2k. Also my car was broken into recently and she just has it in her head(IMHO) that the thing is bad luck and that I should sell it. What should I do? I can't just get rid of the woman I love, but I don't want to sell my favorite car. Please help me to have the best of both worlds. I would like to keep the car and not **** off the wife. Can some of you married guys out there help me to explain how precious my car is to me to my wife. Thanks.
03-17-2003, 01:18 AM
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Ah screw the biatch if she cant understand how important it is to have this kinda pation for a car she probably isnt a very loving person in the first place and is using the car as a scape goat to bitch at you........Dude there are plenty of woman out there that know the feeling of owning your own personalized car,HELL I HAVE ONE MY SELF...........She has her own toy car and loves it...........I say by her a car also so she can understand the emotion involved in changing a car to fit your needs and likings........If she says no well the rx7 isnt very comfortable to sleep in but it is better than fighting with her.....
ALSO REMEMBER YOU OWN A 7 ITS NOT THAT HARD TO FIND A NEW ONE IN A CAR LIKE THAT WOMEN FLOCK TO THESE CARS, HELL THIS THING DRAWS THEM WORSE THAN A BIKE.............
ALSO REMEMBER YOU OWN A 7 ITS NOT THAT HARD TO FIND A NEW ONE IN A CAR LIKE THAT WOMEN FLOCK TO THESE CARS, HELL THIS THING DRAWS THEM WORSE THAN A BIKE.............
03-17-2003, 01:51 AM
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Image thanks for the advice, but I don't think I'm gonna go that route. I think I will try harder to make her understand more. Also I think I'm done with things that need to be fixed for the time being. Atleast I hope so. Hopefully everything will be fine with the car for the next year or so. I plan on laying off on her and not racing as much so that I don't break as many things. Hopefully this will keep me almost trouble free for a while so that I can pay off the bills and save some money just incase I have a major problem. If I have a major problem now she will deffinitely make me get rid of it. I was even contimplating paying off the car and putting it in storage until I could pay off some bills and save some money. Who knows I guess I will see. I just don't want to get divorced over a car.
03-17-2003, 01:54 AM
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Hum let's see 7 or women, noting my fav saying No ***, No Gas, No Grass No free rides. I say drop the girl, get a new one that likes that car as much as you 
plus if you get rid of her more time + money for the 7
plus if you get rid of her more time + money for the 7
03-17-2003, 04:56 AM
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Yeah, women are strange like that and need alot of attention. Anything that you do that gets more attention than she gets from you, she will naturally hate and want you to stop. I say just take it easy on the car for awhile and show her how special she is to you. I myself am not married, nor do i have a steady girlfriend, mainly for the fact that i went the second route. lol... girls and cars DONT mix. I got tired of all the nagging about me spending my own earned money on stupid stuff i enjoy. Besides, like Image was saying, women flock to these cars
But you are married and i assume you love her, so you dont want to drop her or the car. So again, my suggestion is just pay more attention to her, take her out a little more, plan a day to do stuff, if youre an ******* .. stop being an *******, just make her remember why she married you. Then after a couple weeks, you can go back to working on the car again.
But you are married and i assume you love her, so you dont want to drop her or the car. So again, my suggestion is just pay more attention to her, take her out a little more, plan a day to do stuff, if youre an ******* .. stop being an *******, just make her remember why she married you. Then after a couple weeks, you can go back to working on the car again.
03-17-2003, 07:25 AM
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Here's a question... is her money being spent on the RX-7? Ask her who's paying for the car's repairs and upgrades. You are, right? So it's your money being spent. Where does she get off thinking she can make you get rid of something you love, and have invested so much of your blood and sweat into? If you don't have kids, then there is still a way out. Think about it. When/if you have kids, you'll have no way out. I'd rather die than give up my car willingly. I've invested too much of myself in it already to give it up. I can only imagine that with all of the money you've put into (money you'd likely never get back even if you sold the car), you must feel even more attached to your car. Try to explain to her that you need to have a hobby and a life apart from work and home.
If none of that works, then you should really sit down and think about (in the long run) what will bring you the most happiness.
If none of that works, then you should really sit down and think about (in the long run) what will bring you the most happiness.
03-17-2003, 07:54 AM
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ok, I'm married, and on a budget, and drive an old car that needs money here and there...with that said, here's my opinion:
Give the car a long timeline. Pay for the stuff that needs to be paid for not related to the car, then set aside your spare money. Too many divorces happen because of stupid money stuff. Talk to her about what you two want to spend money on, like once a month, or weekly, whatever you decide. My wife gets severely pissed when I buy something simple without talking to her first, because she sees it as impulse buying, and thinks it's something I'll do all the time. But if I discuss it with her, (NOT ASKING PERMISSION, BUT DISCUSSING) she seems more ok with it.
Decide what you want to buy next on the car. Discuss it with her. Don't get hasty and buy something that will hurt you financially. If you have to, store the car until you can save up enough EXTRA money to pay for car stuff. People say there are plenty of women out there that flock to the car, but honestly, does that make sense for someone who wants to get married and stay married? Oh, and divorce isn't cheap. You're not going to save money and be happy by divorcing.
("why'd you divorce your last wife?" "oh, she didn't like me spending money on my car instead of her." what woman wants to be with a man like that?)
Give the car a long timeline. Pay for the stuff that needs to be paid for not related to the car, then set aside your spare money. Too many divorces happen because of stupid money stuff. Talk to her about what you two want to spend money on, like once a month, or weekly, whatever you decide. My wife gets severely pissed when I buy something simple without talking to her first, because she sees it as impulse buying, and thinks it's something I'll do all the time. But if I discuss it with her, (NOT ASKING PERMISSION, BUT DISCUSSING) she seems more ok with it.
Decide what you want to buy next on the car. Discuss it with her. Don't get hasty and buy something that will hurt you financially. If you have to, store the car until you can save up enough EXTRA money to pay for car stuff. People say there are plenty of women out there that flock to the car, but honestly, does that make sense for someone who wants to get married and stay married? Oh, and divorce isn't cheap. You're not going to save money and be happy by divorcing.
("why'd you divorce your last wife?" "oh, she didn't like me spending money on my car instead of her." what woman wants to be with a man like that?)
03-17-2003, 08:09 AM
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If that is your only transportation, then I would get a cheap, reliable car to drive during times that the car has to lay low for repairs. That way the car can sit for longer, and she won't be as pissed. Also, spend more time and attention on your wife. She may be so angry at the car because she is jealous of it. If it seems to her that you are spending more time, effort, money, attention, etc, on the car than her, then she is going to want the car to go. If however, she knows that she comes first, that you will always attend to her needs before the needs of the car, and that the car is just something else you enjoy, then she will be more likely to let it stay. Like, schedule some time to work on the car that doesn't cut into times you'd plan to spend together. Before you go to work on the car (during the scheduled) make sure there isn't anything you can do for your wife to make her any happier---I'm no talking about going out to the movies or anything, it's just the action of asking her that will make her feel more important. I think she'll let the car stay, as long as you make it abundantly clear that she comes before the car, in any situation.