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08-01-2003, 12:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Baldy' date='Aug 1 2003, 10:28 AM
thanks, phins. It really does help to focus on the positives, and what I have, as opposed to what I don't have. Just making a list in my head right now is already making me feel blessed to live the life that I'm living.
I don't know if you're planning on parenthood, but it seems to me that you're going to make a great father/mentor/role model.
I don't know if you're planning on parenthood, but it seems to me that you're going to make a great father/mentor/role model.
I don't really posses any grand wisdom, most of what I have learned in life has come from my mistakes. For every mistake I've made I've taken away something, I think that's the most important thing in life, it's progress. Some lessons are more costly then others, some even alter our personality forever or our outlook on life, but success is walking away with that lesson learned and doing everything possible to keep it from happening again.
We can't learn from our parents mistakes or anyone else for that matter. In fact if we could, think how boring life would be. It's taken sometime for me to come to a point where I no longer dwell on the negative, it always does more harm then good.
You want my advice on the money situation? Never let money come between your wife and you, it's one of the quickest things that will divide you. Money is nothing, you and your wife and your child could be just as happy without. That said, on your money deal, I hate to borrow from family too, but that's what family is all about, helping eachother out when you can. My guess is if her parents have planty of money they don't mind helping out when needed, you probably see it as failure, they prolly see it as "the kids are growing up, but they still need us" and there's nothing wrong with that, it doesn't make you a failure or a bad person.... makes you HUMAN. Your wife's savings... my guess is and you can ask her strait up if you want, she'd rather use that money keeping you guys safe, sound and secure then on anything else. Then you gotta figure out how to stay out of the whole, that should be the fun part, you might have to rely on the family for a bit, but you'll come out of it on top.
Thats prolly scattered thoughts and rambling, but maybe it will make some sense.
So go home load them up in the car and head to the beach, catch a sunset, pack some sandwiches and enjoy the site and the company. Total cost is basically nothing. Take some time to relish what you have, not what you don't.
08-01-2003, 01:13 PM
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Originally Posted by phinsup' date='Aug 1 2003, 11:14 AM
I write this not in response to Baldy's post, I was going to before he write it, but it does have some bearing.
Well there is always things to focus on that will bring you down, always a negative aspect, I could list several in my life which would highlight it's imperfections, but that's what makes life so good, it's imperfections to some extent.
Why does it seem that "When it rains it pours"? Simple, it's a matter of perception, when it rains it pours because it only took that one thing, that final straw to make us focus on ALL the negativity in our lives.
There's always negative aspects to focus on and sure I have a habit of doing that sometimes, it's hard not to. There's some good to focus on, take Baldy for example, bro you could not have the headache at all, no wife, no kid to worry about "letting down".... life wouldn't be so good would it?
Everytime I hit some sort of milestone in my life it causes me to reflect a bit and why not we learn from our past, relish it, but be careful don't spend your future trying to live your past, it's just that.... The Past.
What brought about my moment of reflection? Well yesterday was Amy and I's 2 year anniversary, usually we spend that date in some foreign country, free of stress and worry, but this year was different, no money, jobs to work, but still a happy day. I met her for lunch, then my dad for a beer and a cigar, while we sat in the sun and watched the Blue Angels "Takin on last shot at heaven, while they slipstream through paradise." Simple things should make you happy. Not the bullshit that other people have it worse, I can't stand that. Am I supposed to relish and enjoy other people misery? I hope not, what does that saying even mean? The point is, be happy with what you got, try to focus on the positive aspects and when there aren't any, take some time to relish the past and look forward to the future.
Maybe it's just me, but today I am happy for what I have, the life and good times I have lived and hopefully the many more to come.
Well there is always things to focus on that will bring you down, always a negative aspect, I could list several in my life which would highlight it's imperfections, but that's what makes life so good, it's imperfections to some extent.
Why does it seem that "When it rains it pours"? Simple, it's a matter of perception, when it rains it pours because it only took that one thing, that final straw to make us focus on ALL the negativity in our lives.
There's always negative aspects to focus on and sure I have a habit of doing that sometimes, it's hard not to. There's some good to focus on, take Baldy for example, bro you could not have the headache at all, no wife, no kid to worry about "letting down".... life wouldn't be so good would it?
Everytime I hit some sort of milestone in my life it causes me to reflect a bit and why not we learn from our past, relish it, but be careful don't spend your future trying to live your past, it's just that.... The Past.
What brought about my moment of reflection? Well yesterday was Amy and I's 2 year anniversary, usually we spend that date in some foreign country, free of stress and worry, but this year was different, no money, jobs to work, but still a happy day. I met her for lunch, then my dad for a beer and a cigar, while we sat in the sun and watched the Blue Angels "Takin on last shot at heaven, while they slipstream through paradise." Simple things should make you happy. Not the bullshit that other people have it worse, I can't stand that. Am I supposed to relish and enjoy other people misery? I hope not, what does that saying even mean? The point is, be happy with what you got, try to focus on the positive aspects and when there aren't any, take some time to relish the past and look forward to the future.
Maybe it's just me, but today I am happy for what I have, the life and good times I have lived and hopefully the many more to come.
08-01-2003, 01:26 PM
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Originally Posted by phinsup' date='Aug 1 2003, 01:52 PM
So go home load them up in the car and head to the beach, catch a sunset, pack some sandwiches and enjoy the site and the company. Total cost is basically nothing. Take some time to relish what you have, not what you don't.
Your intuition freaks me out sometimes. Right when I got back from lunch, the wife called. She suggested we do something fun tonight, to cheer up. I think we might just do that.
08-01-2003, 01:27 PM
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It's almost a culture thing if you think about it. Americans focusing on what they don't have, to some degree it may be what has helped the country strive, produce and grow, but in the same respect it has stunted our happiness. When previous generations say "Life was simpler then" it isn't all that accurate of a statement. Culture changed, maybe it complicated, but in reality a lot of people have decided "things" are what make them happy, which is the profecy of an unobtainable dream. With each possession you get, there's another to be had, a better one. Everything in excess, but I don't think you'll ever be happy no matter how many or how grand the possesion. There are people half way around the world happy with fewer possesions.
Happiness from possesions is fleeting.
Happiness from possesions is fleeting.
08-01-2003, 01:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Baldy' date='Aug 1 2003, 10:26 AM
Well said, man.
Your intuition freaks me out sometimes. Right when I got back from lunch, the wife called. She suggested we do something fun tonight, to cheer up. I think we might just do that.
Your intuition freaks me out sometimes. Right when I got back from lunch, the wife called. She suggested we do something fun tonight, to cheer up. I think we might just do that.
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08-01-2003, 01:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Baldy' date='Aug 1 2003, 11:26 AM
Well said, man.
Your intuition freaks me out sometimes. Right when I got back from lunch, the wife called. She suggested we do something fun tonight, to cheer up. I think we might just do that.
Your intuition freaks me out sometimes. Right when I got back from lunch, the wife called. She suggested we do something fun tonight, to cheer up. I think we might just do that.
08-01-2003, 01:37 PM
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BTW, the blue angels quote is from John Hiatt.
It was just funny, when I was watching the Blue Angels flying overhead in their tight formation.
In fact to some degree I guess the statement is right in line with with the topic.
It was just funny, when I was watching the Blue Angels flying overhead in their tight formation.
In fact to some degree I guess the statement is right in line with with the topic.