I write this not in response to Baldy's post, I was going to before he write it, but it does have some bearing.



Well there is always things to focus on that will bring you down, always a negative aspect, I could list several in my life which would highlight it's imperfections, but that's what makes life so good, it's imperfections to some extent.



Why does it seem that "When it rains it pours"? Simple, it's a matter of perception, when it rains it pours because it only took that one thing, that final straw to make us focus on ALL the negativity in our lives.



There's always negative aspects to focus on and sure I have a habit of doing that sometimes, it's hard not to. There's some good to focus on, take Baldy for example, bro you could not have the headache at all, no wife, no kid to worry about "letting down".... life wouldn't be so good would it?



Everytime I hit some sort of milestone in my life it causes me to reflect a bit and why not we learn from our past, relish it, but be careful don't spend your future trying to live your past, it's just that.... The Past.



What brought about my moment of reflection? Well yesterday was Amy and I's 2 year anniversary, usually we spend that date in some foreign country, free of stress and worry, but this year was different, no money, jobs to work, but still a happy day. I met her for lunch, then my dad for a beer and a cigar, while we sat in the sun and watched the Blue Angels "Takin on last shot at heaven, while they slipstream through paradise." Simple things should make you happy. Not the bullshit that other people have it worse, I can't stand that. Am I supposed to relish and enjoy other people misery? I hope not, what does that saying even mean? The point is, be happy with what you got, try to focus on the positive aspects and when there aren't any, take some time to relish the past and look forward to the future.



Maybe it's just me, but today I am happy for what I have, the life and good times I have lived and hopefully the many more to come.

 

Good stuff Phins.. Very true..

 

Well said.

 

Well I'm sorry it isn't a little better organized, it is basically a random group of thoughts, so I didn't put them together all that well, but they get the point of what I was trying to say accross.

 

things also like to happen in threes, so it does pour.



i'm kind of a glass is half full guy myself

 

Yea? I think it's a matter of perception. You could prolly find 3 negative aspects in your life on any one day, sometimes it just takes you that one thing to make you focus on them.

 

thanks, phins. It really does help to focus on the positives, and what I have, as opposed to what I don't have. Just making a list in my head right now is already making me feel blessed to live the life that I'm living.



I don't know if you're planning on parenthood, but it seems to me that you're going to make a great father/mentor/role model.

 

i dont like relish. but i liked and agree with what u said. im always like that. i try to focus on the most insignifacnt positive things as opposed to negative stuff. it just makes life that much better when u do..

 

Events vs. non-events. This thread is high in social psychology.



Staying positive can get tough at times, but it's the only way for me.

 

i got that from the book "Chaos: Making a New Science"...



mike