I Am At A Loss For Words
06-12-2005, 10:57 PM
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Here I am fuming over the hole in my ceiling and I get a call regarding one of my best friends father, he passed away today from cancer, I would say about 55 years of age or less, I don't remember.
I don't deal well with sick people and I don't deal well with death, it's a fact and even though I am not scared of dieing, I do worry constantly about my family and friends, most of my relatives have passed away, my uncle, 2 aunts, grand parents on both sides. One would think that it would somehow make it easier to deal with or somehow make me better equipt, but it doesn't. I tell myself it's a natural part of our lives and that eventually we all die, but it doesn't change the way I feel. I don't deal well with sickness, prolly worse then death. Hospitals, doctors, sick people I really don't even like to talk about it, I don't like to think about people having surgury, staying in the hospital, etc... Amy staying in the hospitcal for just one night was almost more then I could handle.
Anyhow, that's not the point of my topic, where I wanted to go with it was much simpler. With all the **** I've put up with, when put in to perspective I've lived a pretty good life thus far. I got a house, I got cars, I got boats and most of all I have my health and the health of my loved ones.
Next time I sit around here letting my day get ruined over some **** with this house I hope I am able to put it into perspective. Putting things into perspective should be a simple task, there's ups and downs in life no doubt, but when you sit and really look it over the downs don't seem so low. Take no comfort in other people's misery, but take a moment to think about how things in your life really aren't that bad.
Now I'll take some of my own advice.....
I don't deal well with sick people and I don't deal well with death, it's a fact and even though I am not scared of dieing, I do worry constantly about my family and friends, most of my relatives have passed away, my uncle, 2 aunts, grand parents on both sides. One would think that it would somehow make it easier to deal with or somehow make me better equipt, but it doesn't. I tell myself it's a natural part of our lives and that eventually we all die, but it doesn't change the way I feel. I don't deal well with sickness, prolly worse then death. Hospitals, doctors, sick people I really don't even like to talk about it, I don't like to think about people having surgury, staying in the hospital, etc... Amy staying in the hospitcal for just one night was almost more then I could handle.
Anyhow, that's not the point of my topic, where I wanted to go with it was much simpler. With all the **** I've put up with, when put in to perspective I've lived a pretty good life thus far. I got a house, I got cars, I got boats and most of all I have my health and the health of my loved ones.
Next time I sit around here letting my day get ruined over some **** with this house I hope I am able to put it into perspective. Putting things into perspective should be a simple task, there's ups and downs in life no doubt, but when you sit and really look it over the downs don't seem so low. Take no comfort in other people's misery, but take a moment to think about how things in your life really aren't that bad.
Now I'll take some of my own advice.....
06-12-2005, 10:59 PM
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Hey, you never can get truly desensitized to a loved one's death, no matter how many times you go through it. Shows you're human. Sorry about the loss, I knew he wasn't directly related but a friend's loss might as well be your own.
06-13-2005, 12:13 AM
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I lost my Dad about 2 years ago, he was 50 and died of Kidney failure after having a transplanted organ from his sister reject 6 months after his surgery. I got to see him get sick, get REALLY sick, get better and 6 months later die. Thats why I feel like kickin peoples teeth in when I hear them bitch about petty bullshit. Life could be worse. Sometimes it just takes something/someone to show you thats the truth.
06-13-2005, 09:42 AM
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Yea, stuff like that just sucks, and I dont think there is any sort of immunity you can build up to that. Getting desensitized to it is losing your humanity. It ******* hurts, and its supposed to, for how would u tell pleasure if it werent for pain? I lost a good friend from childhood about 5 months ago, she was 19 and had been fighting cancer for about 4 years, and it finally got to her. It still hurts, and its natural.
06-13-2005, 01:22 PM
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You never really get over it, the only death in my family that I wasn't overly upset with was my grandmother. I was still upset and cried over it once but mostly she had been going downhill for years so it was not expected. We took care of her till the day she died so I suppose that helps some.
As for my grandfather he died back in 1984 and I can still get upset thinking about him. One person that I really sorely miss. Ah well one of these days...
Hard to keep stuff in perspective at times we all get caught up with the here and now. In the grand scheme of things if you have your health, a roof over your head and your loved ones there's just not much else that's needed. If you can teach yourself to be content with that then everything else tends to fall into place.
I'm of course perfect at this and never get upset about things that happen or things that I don't have. Things like a TII that's sitting in my garage right now, or a sport that's in my driveway with an aluminum hood and 5 lug wheels and brakes. Oh no I don't get upset at all and want them. Nope. Not me.
As for my grandfather he died back in 1984 and I can still get upset thinking about him. One person that I really sorely miss. Ah well one of these days...
Hard to keep stuff in perspective at times we all get caught up with the here and now. In the grand scheme of things if you have your health, a roof over your head and your loved ones there's just not much else that's needed. If you can teach yourself to be content with that then everything else tends to fall into place.
I'm of course perfect at this and never get upset about things that happen or things that I don't have. Things like a TII that's sitting in my garage right now, or a sport that's in my driveway with an aluminum hood and 5 lug wheels and brakes. Oh no I don't get upset at all and want them. Nope. Not me.
06-13-2005, 02:47 PM
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Yeah man i know how one could just sit and think about everything in our lives and in others, i feel that we were all born for a reason and that God knows that special reason cause he gives it to us. Whenever i feel that way i always look to him cause he's always been there for all of us. So i feel that we must thank him everyday for life and for the lives of those we love. Peace
06-13-2005, 07:44 PM
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[quote name='blaze08' date='Jun 13 2005, 01:47 PM']Yeah man i know how one could just sit and think about everything in our lives and in others, i feel that we were all born for a reason and that God knows that special reason cause he gives it to us. Whenever i feel that way i always look to him cause he's always been there for all of us. So i feel that we must thank him everyday for life and for the lives of those we love. Peace
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Well said.
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Well said.