Have You Really Fucked Up Before?
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Originally Posted by Rotarydragon' date='Jan 3 2004, 07:56 AM
Hrmmm I don't have a failure story, I dated one woman and fell in love with her. Married and quite happy.
Advice?
Sex is the last thing on your mind and the least important thing in a realtionship until you're married. It has NO bearing on love and how a realtionship works, at least not really. You'll adjust, get over the testosterone. "Oh but how will i now if she iz all dat in bedz?!" It's called practice and paying attention.
Don't be self centered if your serious about a realtionship with the person. There's this stupid myth that when you're married it's a 50/50 mix which is NOT the way it works. It's 100/100 you're either committed or you are not. You'll either put down almost anything you're doing for your spouse or you probably don't belong there. Scary? It's a two way street. You're not always right, neither is your spouse learn to adjust. You wont always get to do what you want to do when you want to do it, get over it neither will your spouse.
Hell if you're off doing what YOU want to do all the time why did you get married?
Don't badmouth eachother, ever. At least not seriously
Anyways there's some tips from someone who is happily married for 7 years and will be until I'm dead. Is she perfect? Nope, far from it. Does she drive me nuts? Sure. Do I love her? Yes so I'm willing to work it all out.
Beat that.
Advice?
Sex is the last thing on your mind and the least important thing in a realtionship until you're married. It has NO bearing on love and how a realtionship works, at least not really. You'll adjust, get over the testosterone. "Oh but how will i now if she iz all dat in bedz?!" It's called practice and paying attention.
Don't be self centered if your serious about a realtionship with the person. There's this stupid myth that when you're married it's a 50/50 mix which is NOT the way it works. It's 100/100 you're either committed or you are not. You'll either put down almost anything you're doing for your spouse or you probably don't belong there. Scary? It's a two way street. You're not always right, neither is your spouse learn to adjust. You wont always get to do what you want to do when you want to do it, get over it neither will your spouse.
Hell if you're off doing what YOU want to do all the time why did you get married?
Don't badmouth eachother, ever. At least not seriously
Anyways there's some tips from someone who is happily married for 7 years and will be until I'm dead. Is she perfect? Nope, far from it. Does she drive me nuts? Sure. Do I love her? Yes so I'm willing to work it all out.
Beat that.
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Originally Posted by Rotarydragon' date='Jan 3 2004, 11:56 AM
Blah Blah Blah
Sex and physicallities screw everything up I swear.
Some use it as an excuse to "Figure things out", when really, it only changes your motivations, feelings, and even direction due to how it went. It's not good.
As for me, I don't have any real horror stories, because I've adapted a "Courtship" idea rather than "Dating." Joshua Harris (Christian) wrote some books on his view of how things "can" work (Not Should, every love story is different) if you play your cards a certain way. Needless to say, I agree. But a lot of it involves God and His direction and I don't want to turn this into some religious debate.
But I will just agree, that when you can think with your head, and not with your....head.....things will be much Clearer.
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Originally Posted by Rotarydragon' date='Jan 3 2004, 07:56 AM
Hrmmm I don't have a failure story, I dated one woman and fell in love with her. Married and quite happy.
Advice?
Sex is the last thing on your mind and the least important thing in a realtionship until you're married. It has NO bearing on love and how a realtionship works, at least not really. You'll adjust, get over the testosterone. "Oh but how will i now if she iz all dat in bedz?!" It's called practice and paying attention.
Don't be self centered if your serious about a realtionship with the person. There's this stupid myth that when you're married it's a 50/50 mix which is NOT the way it works. It's 100/100 you're either committed or you are not. You'll either put down almost anything you're doing for your spouse or you probably don't belong there. Scary? It's a two way street. You're not always right, neither is your spouse learn to adjust. You wont always get to do what you want to do when you want to do it, get over it neither will your spouse.
Hell if you're off doing what YOU want to do all the time why did you get married?
Don't badmouth eachother, ever. At least not seriously
Anyways there's some tips from someone who is happily married for 7 years and will be until I'm dead. Is she perfect? Nope, far from it. Does she drive me nuts? Sure. Do I love her? Yes so I'm willing to work it all out.
Beat that.
Advice?
Sex is the last thing on your mind and the least important thing in a realtionship until you're married. It has NO bearing on love and how a realtionship works, at least not really. You'll adjust, get over the testosterone. "Oh but how will i now if she iz all dat in bedz?!" It's called practice and paying attention.
Don't be self centered if your serious about a realtionship with the person. There's this stupid myth that when you're married it's a 50/50 mix which is NOT the way it works. It's 100/100 you're either committed or you are not. You'll either put down almost anything you're doing for your spouse or you probably don't belong there. Scary? It's a two way street. You're not always right, neither is your spouse learn to adjust. You wont always get to do what you want to do when you want to do it, get over it neither will your spouse.
Hell if you're off doing what YOU want to do all the time why did you get married?
Don't badmouth eachother, ever. At least not seriously
Anyways there's some tips from someone who is happily married for 7 years and will be until I'm dead. Is she perfect? Nope, far from it. Does she drive me nuts? Sure. Do I love her? Yes so I'm willing to work it all out.
Beat that.
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when i was 15 i was going out with my girl and we were all drunk as my house, her friend cme over and got drunk also. they wanted to kiss but i wouldnt let them. so they did it behind my back when i was in the bathroom. had i played my cards right i could had a 3some.
****.... hindsight i guess....
****.... hindsight i guess....
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Originally Posted by ColinRX7' date='Jan 3 2004, 12:44 AM
I am curious to hear stories from you guys (about relationships with women).
Did you ever **** up something good chasing something you thought was there? What's all your failure stories? I know you guys got 'em. Something buried deep inside. Let's hear it. What's some of your all time biggest mistakes?
Did you ever **** up something good chasing something you thought was there? What's all your failure stories? I know you guys got 'em. Something buried deep inside. Let's hear it. What's some of your all time biggest mistakes?
well other then my legal problems.
kevin.
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Originally Posted by teknics' date='Jan 3 2004, 09:47 AM
i have. but thats the extent of my story that ill be displaying no a public forum.
well other then my legal problems.
kevin.
well other then my legal problems.
kevin.
teknicsiny2g?
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Originally Posted by ColinRX7' date='Jan 3 2004, 12:49 PM
Your AIM work? LOL.
teknicsiny2g?
teknicsiny2g?
but believe me the past 3 years of my lovelife are so fuked up neither me, the girls, or my friends udnerstand if we sit down and try to discuss it.
kevin.
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Originally Posted by teknics' date='Jan 3 2004, 09:53 AM
nope aim/aol is off (god damn i want my computer back)
but believe me the past 3 years of my lovelife are so fuked up neither me, the girls, or my friends udnerstand if we sit down and try to discuss it.
kevin.
but believe me the past 3 years of my lovelife are so fuked up neither me, the girls, or my friends udnerstand if we sit down and try to discuss it.
kevin.
I have my stories as well but nothing I want to post on a public forum. Well not the one I'm going through right now anyways.
