Im being told by other people that it would be bad to go up there to soon and that she'll think im stalking her. Thoughts?

 

Always thinking eh Seppuku?





Uhh, no. If you sit and stare at her for 15 mins that would be stalking though. Just walk up, make eye contact, leave the note (utilize a paperweight) and walk away. Don't forget to smile.

 

I would wait a week before I go back there. Going back the next day just makes it seem like you either spend your life at the mall, or you are stalking her.



- Hand

 

I seen her monday, today would have been the next day. I might go up friday or if not monday. I dont even know if she'll be working either.

 

Go Friday. You may even consider just walking past if she is working. Just act like you are shopping. Then come back on Monday and play the moves. This way she thinks that you are actually doing something, just try not to make too much eye contact if you are going to do that.



- Hand

 

It's not complicated - you both fancy each other, just go up and talk to her. You were unlucky with the phone incident, but I guarantee after about 2 minutes of talking you will wonder what all the fuss was about.



Mark

 

If you use a paperweight, use something neat. Like, I don't know, a 3 karot diamond. You get the idea.

 

Going closer to the weekend is probably the best approach. If she's able to be free, it would more than likely be on a Friday or Saturday so inviting her out for one of those days would be best. I say leave her your name and number and see if she gives you a call. If so, she's interested so go for it. If not, don't give up, not all girls would call back in such a situation.

 

Okay, going back to the first post, if she smiled and said "yes" when you asked if you could join her, that's a good sign. If she thought you were a stalker, she would have made an excuse like, "I have to get back to work" or "I have to go home and take care of my sick grandma."



Go and talk to her the next time its convenient for you. Try to pick a time when you know the place won't be too busy. If she's busy, the note idea is good, but don't use a frickin paper weight, just say "excuse me" and hand it to her.



And remember, there is nothing to fear but fear itself. We all have silly memories of being insecure around women. It's a good thing, actually, because when that's gone, you will probably have become a jaded arrogant macho male ***** like me.