Another Girfriend Thread!
02-12-2004, 09:36 AM
#11
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Ok, first off. Not all girls fit into such a nice little description.
Trust me, I'd know!
Second, you need to talk to your girlfriend.
But honestly if you even think you need to employ any of the tactics to find proof of infedelity. . it's already over. You'll never trust her again, or eventually she'll find out about these "spy games" and she'll end it.
Seriously, you can't carry on in a relationship where all you're ever doing is waiting for the person to make a mistake! That's not love, that's a board game!
Trust in love is funny thing like this, It takes a while to build. . but a thought to destroy it all.
Good luck.
Trust me, I'd know!
Second, you need to talk to your girlfriend.
But honestly if you even think you need to employ any of the tactics to find proof of infedelity. . it's already over. You'll never trust her again, or eventually she'll find out about these "spy games" and she'll end it.
Seriously, you can't carry on in a relationship where all you're ever doing is waiting for the person to make a mistake! That's not love, that's a board game!
Trust in love is funny thing like this, It takes a while to build. . but a thought to destroy it all.
Good luck.
02-12-2004, 10:02 AM
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I am 20 and she is 19. we havent used a car/truck for 2 years, since I started college and live on campus. and as for boredum, I would hope she would not get bored the way I try new things and try to do special things a couple times a month or so...like sweet stuf, bubble baths, rose pedals, cabndles, music...etc. The trust issue is big for me, and my mind likes to wonder...which isnt a good thing. as for going away...I wish, her parents are very strict and I have asked her if I should ask her father if she could go with me and she says that wouldnt be a good idea. her parents love me to death. About 2 months ago her best freinds brother came into town and she was visiting her best freind and she ended up kissing him and that was it or at least thats what she said. he lives a couple states away or some ****, I never bothered to find out. she says there was a lot of history between them since they practically grew up together and that it was a mistake and she was trying to get me to pay more attention to her. As of the last week or so she wont let me look at her cell phone. I broke up with her a little over a month ago and then 2 days later when we were having makup sex, she started crying at the end, holding me tight and saying she never wanted me to leave.
02-12-2004, 10:09 AM
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Originally Posted by SpecialT' date='Feb 12 2004, 07:36 AM
Ok, first off. Not all girls fit into such a nice little description.
Trust me, I'd know!
Second, you need to talk to your girlfriend.
But honestly if you even think you need to employ any of the tactics to find proof of infedelity. . it's already over. You'll never trust her again, or eventually she'll find out about these "spy games" and she'll end it.
Seriously, you can't carry on in a relationship where all you're ever doing is waiting for the person to make a mistake! That's not love, that's a board game!
Trust in love is funny thing like this, It takes a while to build. . but a thought to destroy it all.
Good luck.
Trust me, I'd know!
Second, you need to talk to your girlfriend.
But honestly if you even think you need to employ any of the tactics to find proof of infedelity. . it's already over. You'll never trust her again, or eventually she'll find out about these "spy games" and she'll end it.
Seriously, you can't carry on in a relationship where all you're ever doing is waiting for the person to make a mistake! That's not love, that's a board game!
Trust in love is funny thing like this, It takes a while to build. . but a thought to destroy it all.
Good luck.
And I agree with Trice on the "already over" dealy. From that point forward it's just a matter of time.
02-12-2004, 10:20 AM
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i gotta agree with sidewinder on this one. ive been on the evil side of a couple of breakups and it always starts innocent flirty but can grow into phone conversations hanging out in public then private which is what u wanna stop
depending on how fast this guy works he might just be makinf friends with her subconsciously.. err... showing her how good of a guy he is and what shes missing out on. her shying away from u seems to me more like shes questioning if ur the right one or she should be with somone else (ie wonder guy)
girls are dumb like that the guy could be like "hold on ill be right back in gonna read my baby sister a bedtime story" and hell go take a dump reading a playboy while the chick thinks hes mr wonderful and is soaking up the seat waiting for him.
find out who she talks to if she has any new guy friends "were just friends" NO theyre never just friends a guy is a friend if hes working his way to ***. check her call log on the cell ask questions jsut dont be psycho stalker.
good luck
depending on how fast this guy works he might just be makinf friends with her subconsciously.. err... showing her how good of a guy he is and what shes missing out on. her shying away from u seems to me more like shes questioning if ur the right one or she should be with somone else (ie wonder guy)
girls are dumb like that the guy could be like "hold on ill be right back in gonna read my baby sister a bedtime story" and hell go take a dump reading a playboy while the chick thinks hes mr wonderful and is soaking up the seat waiting for him.
find out who she talks to if she has any new guy friends "were just friends" NO theyre never just friends a guy is a friend if hes working his way to ***. check her call log on the cell ask questions jsut dont be psycho stalker.
good luck
02-12-2004, 10:24 AM
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Originally Posted by DeaconFrost' date='Feb 12 2004, 12:02 PM
I am 20 and she is 19. we havent used a car/truck for 2 years, since I started college and live on campus. and as for boredum, I would hope she would not get bored the way I try new things and try to do special things a couple times a month or so...like sweet stuf, bubble baths, rose pedals, cabndles, music...etc. The trust issue is big for me, and my mind likes to wonder...which isnt a good thing. as for going away...I wish, her parents are very strict and I have asked her if I should ask her father if she could go with me and she says that wouldnt be a good idea. her parents love me to death. About 2 months ago her best freinds brother came into town and she was visiting her best freind and she ended up kissing him and that was it or at least thats what she said. he lives a couple states away or some ****, I never bothered to find out. she says there was a lot of history between them since they practically grew up together and that it was a mistake and she was trying to get me to pay more attention to her. As of the last week or so she wont let me look at her cell phone. I broke up with her a little over a month ago and then 2 days later when we were having makup sex, she started crying at the end, holding me tight and saying she never wanted me to leave.
I never say this, I'm all for making good relationships work, but I've seen some guys really fucked up by manipulative girls. But get out of that relationship.
02-12-2004, 10:26 AM
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Originally Posted by MazdaMike' date='Feb 12 2004, 12:20 PM
i gotta agree with sidewinder on this one. ive been on the evil side of a couple of breakups and it always starts innocent flirty but can grow into phone conversations hanging out in public then private which is what u wanna stop
depending on how fast this guy works he might just be makinf friends with her subconsciously.. err... showing her how good of a guy he is and what shes missing out on. her shying away from u seems to me more like shes questioning if ur the right one or she should be with somone else (ie wonder guy)
girls are dumb like that the guy could be like "hold on ill be right back in gonna read my baby sister a bedtime story" and hell go take a dump reading a playboy while the chick thinks hes mr wonderful and is soaking up the seat waiting for him.
find out who she talks to if she has any new guy friends "were just friends" NO theyre never just friends a guy is a friend if hes working his way to ***. check her call log on the cell ask questions jsut dont be psycho stalker.
good luck
depending on how fast this guy works he might just be makinf friends with her subconsciously.. err... showing her how good of a guy he is and what shes missing out on. her shying away from u seems to me more like shes questioning if ur the right one or she should be with somone else (ie wonder guy)
girls are dumb like that the guy could be like "hold on ill be right back in gonna read my baby sister a bedtime story" and hell go take a dump reading a playboy while the chick thinks hes mr wonderful and is soaking up the seat waiting for him.
find out who she talks to if she has any new guy friends "were just friends" NO theyre never just friends a guy is a friend if hes working his way to ***. check her call log on the cell ask questions jsut dont be psycho stalker.
good luck
02-12-2004, 10:35 AM
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There are honourable women out there. Hopefully I get my hands on one one day. My gf was honourable in the way that she had never cheated on me. I trust her that much, however, she never really gained my trust at all or re-inforced any trust in her. She just went around flirted with guys and expected me to trust her anyway.
There's a second part to be played by the member of the opposite sex in a relationship, and even though she had never cheated on me, she had that "monkey swinging" mentality, and she openly admitted it to me. She wasnt going to go out with any of the guys she was flirting with, but she did tell me that she did it so they were there "just in case we brake up".
At least she was honest.
There's a second part to be played by the member of the opposite sex in a relationship, and even though she had never cheated on me, she had that "monkey swinging" mentality, and she openly admitted it to me. She wasnt going to go out with any of the guys she was flirting with, but she did tell me that she did it so they were there "just in case we brake up".
At least she was honest.
02-12-2004, 12:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Baldy' date='Feb 12 2004, 08:24 AM
Dude, it's over. She kissed some other guy, won't let you look at her cell, is using you, and guilting you to think that she wants to be with only you. You don't trust her, and I wouldn't either. It sounds to me like you already pay a lot of attention to her, and she gets a kick out of that. And like mentioned already, if you don't trust her (and you shouldn't), it's already over.
I never say this, I'm all for making good relationships work, but I've seen some guys really fucked up by manipulative girls. But get out of that relationship.
I never say this, I'm all for making good relationships work, but I've seen some guys really fucked up by manipulative girls. But get out of that relationship.
basically you are a fail-safe. your there for her comfort, you make her feel secure, but it doesn't sound like she knows what she wants right now.